{"id":122,"date":"2021-12-14T21:26:53","date_gmt":"2021-12-14T21:26:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coachjlo.com\/?p=122"},"modified":"2021-12-14T21:26:55","modified_gmt":"2021-12-14T21:26:55","slug":"the-cost-of-conflict-avoidance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachjlo.com\/the-cost-of-conflict-avoidance\/","title":{"rendered":"The Cost Of Conflict Avoidance"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Let's face it, we all do it, bite our tongues to keep the peace! It's like little white lies - we've all told a few over our lifetime!&nbsp; BUT if you're continuously suppressing your feelings, desires, or opinions to avoid conflict in a relationship...&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It's only a matter of time before you implode or explode!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Suppressing your feelings is never a good idea. While It may work in \"keeping the peace\" for the short term, it is a recipe for disaster over time! It turns the relationship into a fa\u00e7ade, it isn't real, and it isn't fair to you or your partner!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Not to mention the internal war brewing a cocktail of resentment, anger, and misery.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1. Resentment toward the person you're trying to please;<br><br>2. Anger at yourself for suppressing YOUR needs; and<br><br>3. Misery living a life that isn't what YOU really want or deserve!\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Is this a sustainable approach to a peaceful relationship?&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is only a question of time until something happens that will likely result in the very thing you're trying to avoid \u2013 conflict and the potential end of your relationship!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Is it worth it?&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What are you gaining?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;Better yet, what are you losing?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"A picture containing clipart\n\nDescription automatically generated\" src=\"https:\/\/lh4.googleusercontent.com\/txzpsQrPPJPOI3tiO3wQvsHnOzQZq--GMzjizg1_Cxd9hyRBK-FpQunMAuoZRaQ3MnKTx9EjsTAe7EVVj10tkxgABS7FZ4gFt22tYWrHUz1u3ArnkPFAegqDtmO3XErNZaq2Y3G8\" width=\"90\" height=\"87\">Jenny L. O'Neil - aka Coach JLO<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Let's face it, we all do it, bite our tongues to keep the peace! It's like little white lies - we've all told a few over our lifetime!&nbsp; BUT if you're continuously suppressing your feelings, desires, or opinions to avoid conflict in a relationship...&nbsp; It's only a matter of time before you implode or explode!&nbsp; [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachjlo.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/122"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachjlo.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachjlo.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachjlo.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachjlo.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=122"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/coachjlo.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/122\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":123,"href":"https:\/\/coachjlo.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/122\/revisions\/123"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachjlo.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=122"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachjlo.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=122"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachjlo.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=122"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}